They asked if I had a few songs I'd like played and I carefully selected several songs I thought would be good based on sound and lyrics.
I do understand why they didn't play this one, since it's kind of obscure and not something a DJ is likely to have in their collection.
What's feminist about it?
I think to start with the video itself and the non-standard beauty shown with loose T-shirts, not overly made-up, or overly feminine.
And the lyrics, which I'll just say they are all favourites since there aren't many:
I'm not dancing. I'm fighting.
I'm not shining. I'm burning.
I'm not touching. I'm feeling.
First about I'm not dancing; I'm fighting. I've definitely felt that on the dance floor. I have had times where I was making more of conscious effort to fend off guys than to dance. I've had to fend off guys both from myself and from female friends who had come to the club with me.
I think shining while nice can also be seen as gentle, pretty, subtle. Burning is far more powerful and strong.
And I think women often are more about feeling, in general. I know that's my preference when dancing. I like to dance and I'm happy to dance with people. However, it's not dancing in contact with someone else. It's dancing near other people. I have done types of dancing that involve more contact, but at clubs I'm all about dancing without touching. It's all about that wonderful feeling.